One of the issues facing relationships at the moment is level of commitment, people complain here & there that their partners aren't showing signs of seriously, so quickly let's look at a few points to know who's at fault, you or your partner?
1) Are you ready: You complain your about your partner not showing commitment but do you deserve it? are you showing signs of seriousness?
Some guys don't have a drive, a vision, a mission, and can't even take care of themselves talkless of caring for a family, you still stay at your parents place and you're very happy & comfortable with that. No woman that is sensible would want to commit to you cos face it bro you're a joke. If you want her to be committed you have to earn it and show her you have no problems with taking care of a family you're planning to have.
Some ladies just think about outings and parties and fun generally, no man would take you serious if you're still on that level, some ladies can't help their partners with the smallest things like having future discussions, helping him out with little chores and just been a good girl. You go to his house and all u do is sit down & cross ur legs and wait 4 him to bring you food, my sister you're not ready and don't expect any man to show commitment to that.
So the first step to take is to show a high level of seriousness so that you'll be taken serious.
2) Communication: Some people find it difficult to communicate with their partners, so they don't even know when he/she is showing the signs or signals that they're ready. Don't wait until he/she tells you verbally, look out for the signs of seriousness and just take actions. When they start talking about the future, about weddings, about the type of environment they want to live just know that person is ready to settle down.
3) Know your partner's state of mind: If your partner is just getting his/her shit together you shouldn't expect commitment unless you want to bring long term problems for yourself. If he doesn’t have enough money but he's hustling to change that you can't expect him to commit, just wait and watch how things turn out when he's settled in.
4) Get standards: Most people want their partners to have standards, if all you do is come to his house and cook, wash, sweep, do the chores even for his friends and after that sex, and sex again, anytime he wants it you're always there, if he's going to Abuja tomorrow you're available, anything he wants to do you're always available then he won't take you serious and won't show any sign of commitment since he's gotten all he needs from a wife. So get some standards, you can assist him with chores but don't be his househelp or sex machine.
5) Finally, if you're ready and you show it, have a discussion with him/her and make sure you're not blinded with love, don't be biased on your judgment, and from that discussion you'll know maybe to dump his/her silly ass or remain in the relationship. There's no such thing as a perfect man or woman, you'll always get somebody better than him/her. So don't waste your time sticking around ACT NOW!!!
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